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What Happens on the Silent Day

The full day of practice between weeks six and seven is the part people most want to skip and most often name as the turning point.

By Ruth Ellery Published

Every full MBSR course includes one day of sustained practice, conventionally placed between the sixth and seventh weeks. It usually runs six to seven hours and is conducted largely in silence.

What actually happens

Nothing new is introduced. Participants move through the practices they have already learned, in longer blocks than a weekly class allows: sitting practice, the body scan, mindful movement, walking practice, and a silent meal.

The teacher speaks to give instructions and little else. Participants do not speak to one another. Most courses break the silence toward the end of the day to allow a short discussion before people leave.

Why the length matters

The content is familiar, so the working element is duration. A twenty-minute sitting practice can be got through on interest and goodwill. A day cannot. Somewhere in the middle of it both run out, and what the practice is like after that point is different from what it is like before.

Participants tend to describe the same arc: an easy first hour, a difficult middle where boredom and restlessness are acute, and something quieter afterwards. Teachers do not usually describe this in advance, on the reasonable grounds that being told what to expect changes what happens.

Why people want to skip it

A weekday or weekend given over entirely to a course is a real cost, and the day arrives at the point in the eight weeks where enthusiasm is lowest. It is also the component that sounds least appealing when described.

Teachers generally treat attendance as strongly expected rather than optional. A course that quietly drops the day is not delivering the curriculum the research examined, and it is a reasonable thing to ask about before enrolling.

Practical points

Bring layers, since sitting still for hours is colder than expected. Bring food if the course does not provide it. Expect to be tired afterwards in a way that is disproportionate to having sat in a room all day.

Why silence rather than just a long class

Speaking resets attention. A conversation, even a brief one, returns a person to the ordinary social mode the practice is trying to step outside of, and the effect of several hours of continuous practice does not survive it.

Holding the silence also removes the usual way of managing discomfort. In a weekly class, a difficult twenty minutes can be discharged afterwards by talking about it. On the silent day it cannot, and what happens instead is the thing the day exists to show.

The arc most people describe

An easy first hour or so, carried by novelty. A difficult middle stretch where restlessness and boredom are acute and the day feels ill-advised. Then something quieter in the afternoon that participants find hard to describe afterwards and generally do not attempt to.

Teachers rarely set this out in advance, on the reasonable grounds that expecting a sequence changes it.

Afterwards

Expect to be tired in a way that seems out of proportion to having sat in a room. Most people are advised not to schedule anything demanding for the evening.

Common questions

Is the silent day compulsory?

Not in a formal sense, and teachers generally treat it as strongly expected. A course that omits it is not delivering the curriculum the research examined, which is a reasonable thing to check before enrolling.

What if I cannot manage a whole day of silence?

Most people assume they cannot and most people manage. The day is broken into practice blocks with movement and a meal rather than being a single unbroken sit, and the teacher speaks to give instructions throughout.

Can the day be done online?

Yes, and it is now common. It works less well than in person for most participants, largely because leaving a video call is easier than leaving a room, but it is a real version of the day rather than a token one.

What should I bring?

Layers, because sitting still for hours is colder than expected, and food if the course does not provide it. Nothing else is needed.